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Post: # 29209Unread post Mark_Thompson
Thu Aug 27, 2020 7:13 am

This is way out there in Area 51 territory, but I’m always interested to hear the tips and advice of parents who have already been through it (okay maybe not always haha). Maybe just the best single piece of advice you’ve received, or wish you had received earlier?


My tyrant is almost two, she does pretty well so far helping in the yard.


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Post: # 29217Unread post EdieJ
Thu Aug 27, 2020 9:15 am

My advice is to keep doing what you're doing. She looks healthy, happy and very cute!
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Post: # 29219Unread post Growing Coastal
Thu Aug 27, 2020 9:23 am

I love the red skirt!
My grand daughter used to take tools to my bicycle, not actually undoing anything just putting them to the metal. Anything to make them think they can is good when they're so young. The world damps them down later on.
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Thu Aug 27, 2020 12:23 pm

I'm not a parent, but a good advice is "no separate kid's food". She should eat everything you eat.
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Post: # 29236Unread post Vanman
Thu Aug 27, 2020 1:03 pm

Enjoy her while you can. She will be grown up and gone in no time.

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Post: # 29239Unread post pondgardner
Thu Aug 27, 2020 2:03 pm

Spend as much time as you can, while you can, with the child. Toys and gifts are no substitute for quality one-on-one time. We just got through 2 weeks of taking care of our 2 year old grandson and although he did have toys to play with, he was so much more involved in being outside, wandering around the garden with the grandparents, playing in the water with his little pool and bouncing around his ball. This old man even got into his kiddie pool with him and got sprayed with water. Your child will remember the things you did with them, not what you bought them.
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Post: # 29240Unread post bluee19
Thu Aug 27, 2020 2:14 pm

Also, if you can record/take pictures of your child as much as possible and make sure you are in the video or pictures at times so when your child grows up. Your child have will these for memories. When you record the videos, say the date plus year and time so when you child grows up, oh, I see I was this age and this is what I was doing. I hope this helps!

We can't bring back time so a good amount of your time with your child, creating moments, being a kid again, its so much fun!!!

I hope I am making sense :)

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Post: # 29243Unread post rxkeith
Thu Aug 27, 2020 2:50 pm

in matters of discipline, be very consistent otherwise life becomes harder.
kids are operators, and learn how to get what they want.
when my son was a wee lad, the two most favorite things he liked to do
was watch movies, and play with legos. his job was to pick up the legos that
were strewn through out the house before bedtime. he might say NO, not gonna.
then we would say, ok, i will pick the legos up, BUT, they will disappear for a day
or you will not be able to watch any movies tomorrow. thats how it was.
then, if young son got lippy about it the next day, we would say, ok, if you continue
this behavior, you won't play with the legos or watch movies tomorrow either.
trust me, it won't happen more than once or twice tops.

the other thing is try not to tell your child to be careful.
this might have been a recommendation from a pediatrician or child behaviorist
that wrote a book. i took my son to the playground a lot where ever we lived.
parents, usually the moms, you would hear them saying be careful, be careful as
their children were playing on the jungle gym. i would keep my mouth shut, but watch.
my son would figure out on his own what he could do, or not do, and that would change
from week to week as his confidence grew.
my son also liked to climb trees. he would get up in a tree a ways, and say, i'm up pretty
high dad. yeah, you are son.
do you think i should go higher? well, i'm not the one up in the tree. do you think you should
go higher? he would think about it, and maybe say, no i think i'm high enough.

my son is 16 now, and has his graduated drivers license. it is really hard not to say be careful.


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Thu Aug 27, 2020 4:09 pm

I asked the same question about parenting advice when I found out we were expecting (she's 11 now). The wisest person I know told me the best thing my wife and I could do for our child as parents is to love each other. So far, this has proven to be true. I think she's a better person than we are, though I'm not sure how.

That's not to say that's all there is to it. @pondgardner and @bluee19 are also spot on. For a guy that doesn't have a natural knack for relating to small kids, quality time when she was young was challenging, and I'm afraid I sold her short. We've made some great memories, and I don't think she thought anything was lacking, but there are too few of them for me. I guess it's always like that--there's never enough time or happy memories or experiences with our child for a parent not to wish there were more.

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Post: # 29253Unread post Mark_Thompson
Thu Aug 27, 2020 7:38 pm

Awesome everyone, thanks. Everyone’s different perspectives are fun to read, I would love to hear from more on here.
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Post: # 29255Unread post worth1
Thu Aug 27, 2020 8:14 pm

I have never had children and have been told I have no say so.
I have taken care of problem children no one else wanted to take care of.
I have seen more in my life when it comes to neglected children that I would be afraid to discuss here it is so horrific.
What I can say for sure is little girls love their daddy's like no tomorrow.
How you treat that girl is going to have huge effect on who they will be attracted to when they become an adult.
Simply saying they are looking for a man like you many times.
Same goes for boys too.
But this always doesn't happen.
Don't ever neglect your little girl because you are a father that wanted a boy.
This is a stupid antiquated idea that needs to go away as soon as possible.
If I would have had children I would have wanted a little girl not a boy.
How you raise that child is up to the child, not you, me or anyone else.
Children are young people with a developing mind.
Not robots where one size fits all.
What is important and your job is for you to develop that individual into an adult by mentoring and guidance.
Just try not to be too controlling and let them adventure on their own but keep a close eye out without them knowing.
This will build convenience.
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Post: # 30698Unread post Tormato
Wed Sep 16, 2020 4:36 pm

What a dad, where your first pic is your 2 YO staring at a chainsaw. ;)

As others mentioned, it's about quality time with her. And, as she grows, it's doing things with her that she wants to do. Which means in 10 years, you've got to take her and all of her tween friends to that boy band concert.
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Post: # 30701Unread post Whwoz
Wed Sep 16, 2020 5:28 pm

Just accept her for who she is. Things will be smoother than if you try to make her someone she is not.
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Post: # 30714Unread post Mark_Thompson
Wed Sep 16, 2020 9:21 pm

Tormato wrote:
Wed Sep 16, 2020 4:36 pm
Which means in 10 years, you've got to take her and all of her tween friends to that boy band concert.
Noooooooooooooooooooooo
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Post: # 30754Unread post Tormato
Thu Sep 17, 2020 10:33 am

Yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeees

I didn't realize that you're in Hawaii. Do boy bands tour that far?
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Post: # 30767Unread post Amateurinawe
Thu Sep 17, 2020 1:30 pm

Really tricky one this. And I guess you never really know until you see how they grow through all lives stages. And maybe that is the advice. Humans are complex and grow and change and there will be times of difficulty during growing up where you may be horrified what has happened, what did you do. Be honest, don't push but be more of a coach. Give unconditional love, never jeopardise that but Be firm. Be one step ahead but don't show it, they must learn. Let the fall in the park, don't let them fall in the road. Don't let your worries and burdens be their burdens. Show them to be inquisitive, show them now to appreciate the small things. Show them the reward of working for something, and the telling of giving. Let them question and be honest but don't force them into areas they are not ready for. You will be their rock for a long time and then you will not be, then they are ready and so are you.
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Post: # 30824Unread post Mark_Thompson
Fri Sep 18, 2020 12:24 am

Haven’t seen any big name boy bands over here, luckily. We have enough lousy local music of our own though, I’m sure I’ll get stuck chaperoning for some pretty painful ones. Like you say, all part of the deal.
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